we all have a “picker.” That “picker” is formed at the earliest ages. it’s calibrated by the relationship between our parents. It’s further refined by how we view the parent of the opposite sex. Unfortunately, these calibrations are made long before we have the ability to realize that the information being entered needs to be filtered, because these basic experiences are being absorbed whole without analysis or criticism.
And the one input that attracts our “picker” more than anything else is the factor called “chemistry.”
Each person’s individual chemistry calibration

chemistry has to mean something else. Attraction has to be different. Our identity, our values and beliefs have changed should my “picker” be adjusted to new settings that reflect who I am now.

y es, it may be uncomfortable at first it even may be scary and unsettling. It may have you doubting yourself and your choices. It’ll remove all your limiting beliefs and generalizations you make about the opposite sex.