If you think of dating as your way to learn about another person and
about yourself without risking anything, it can be fun -- go for coffee
or a walk or dinner with someone new, talk, see what you both enjoy
discussing and doing. It's when you think of dating as auditioning a
potential soulmate that it becomes fraught with anxiety, unpleasantness,
and emotional danger Please also try to learn about me. If you do all the talking and don't
ask me any questions, I don't know if it's nervousness or that you don't
care who I am. As interesting as you may be, a monologue absolutely
rules out a second date.
- Be yourself, be truthful, tell me about yourself -- and I'll do the same. That doesn't mean dumping details of your last health exam or therapy session, but take the opportunity to show me who you really are and what matters to you. We're too old to play the I'll-try-to-appear-to-be-who-you-want-me-to-be game.
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