People with higher self-esteem are experts in self-care. They pamper themselves whenever possible. They don’t wait for someone to treat them well, they do it themselves. Pampering can be as simple as a bath or an uninterrupted hour to do whatever you want, even if that thing is nothing.
Learn to recognize when you are diminishing yourself. Instead of telling yourself that you are a failure because you didn’t get that job, congratulate yourself for getting out there and applying. Get a journal and every night write down something you did that day that you feel good about. You can also record compliments people give you. If the people around you are giving you nothing but negative feedback, seriously rethink your relationships with them. Choose to be around people who are supportive, loving and kind and who recognize that you are special. Reread your journal entries frequently. It may take a long time and a lot of effort to undo past damage. Tell yourself to STOP when you are going down the dark and devastating path of self-hatred.
There are few things worth fighting for more than our self-esteem. Sometimes it requires that we do battle with the self-defeating chorus in our heads until newfound self-regard drowns out their roars. No one needs to be a victim of past experiences. With training, intention and persistence we can succeed at aligning our choices and actions with our values and beliefs, proceeding with a life of integrity, authenticity and higher self-esteem
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