do not please people

Learn how to say "no". Don't make up excuses — give your reasons for not wanting something Ask for what you want Do something for yourself. Do one thing you have been wanting to do, but feel afraid someone else will not like. Heck on 'em. Do it anyway! It is best to develop good self-care skills which include healthy assertiveness skills. •You can listen to others, but ultimately, what you do is your choice. Keep a balance! •Sometimes the needs of other people should come first. Whenever there's a conflict of desires, try to come up with a solution that will meet both desires halfway, or better yet, a "win-win" situation where both sides get even more than they bargained for. •Be yourself. How do you expect people to like you if they don't see who you really are. There is one way and that is by showing them the person you are when you are alone, the person you know and love. This makes you true, original and interesting. Be your own brand, you don't have to fit anyone's stereotype, maybe you are what they are looking for. Take the chances, to get something you never had you have to do something you have never done.