Here are five limiting beliefs about life that are worth losing, pronto: 1. Life is fair Living life trying to secure justice never pays off. Well, unless you’re an attorney, then maybe. There will be lots of times when life is unfair. It sucks but “it is what it is.” The sooner you accept that and stop wasting your energy wishing it wasn’t, the more of your life you’ll actually participate in. There are plenty of things in life that are fair too. Your new assignment is to seek them out. 2. Suffering is bad Suffering just feels bad while it’s happening. But, suffering also has a silver lining that never gets the credit it deserves. Suffering helps us grow and get to the next place in life. Let’s face it, if not for suffering, we’d never stop our busy lives to expand in ways that make our lives better. Suffering is almost always a stepping stone to somewhere better. Failed relationships get us to the successful ones; illness helps us examine who we are and what matters; grief reminds us we are human and we can survive after inevitable loss; and the list goes on and on. 3. You are in control Although you are responsible for your own life and your decisions, there is much more that goes into the synchronicity of life for which you’re obsessively planning and preparing. “Bad” things will happen; plans will get changed at the last minute. Life will play out differently than you want it to and the more you expect that, the better off you’ll be. Being in control is an illusion that drains your energy, puts you on edge and makes you miss all the good stuff. 4. People are obligated to love you a specific way People love you in the way they know how. You can always focus on why they’re not supportive enough or compassionate enough or why they always say the wrong thing at the wrong time. But, the fact is, you don’t get to make that call. We all have the ability to love, but our capacity to do so is unique. So stop demanding people love you how you think they should and start focusing on the fact that they do love you. 5. Keeping the peace actually keeps the peace Keeping quiet or trying not to hurt someone at the expense of you own happiness is outdated. Not only does holding back put a serious stress on our physical bodies, we aren’t doing a service to those we are trying to save either.