Look for a model (someone who has self confidence) and learn from them. What is it they do that makes them confident, how do they act? Often if you act confidently you will feel more self assured. Sometimes a smile is all you need but there are many other steps you can take to feel more relaxed in any given situation. Focus on your achievements rather than on your failures. If you do find yourself thinking about how you failed then look at what you managed to do right and how you could correct what you did next time. This change in attitude makes you more positive and that outlook will change how you cope with all the challenges you face. Learn how to feel good about yourself - there are always things to feel good about! Act as if you were self confident! You will feel more confident. Focus on who you are and what you like about yourself. Why do your friends like you? Prepare thoroughly for any task so that you can be sure you are ready. Knowing that you have prepared well will make you better able to cope with anything that may come up. Work on any skills you need to do what you want, you can never be over trained or over skilled for any challenge in life. Work on your relaxation skills . When you come to challenging and difficult moments relaxing will enable you to control your negative emotions and project more positive ones. Breathing is one aspect of this that is so important because controlling your breathing controls your body's reactions to what's going on around you. Always smile and stand up straight. Your posture and smile will project confidence and you will feel better able to cope with anything. You will also find that others respond to you better and this will give you an added boost. Set reachable goals for yourself and break difficult tasks into smaller steps. You will be able to believe that you can achieve your larger goals if you can see the clear steps towards it and know that you can be successful by taking these smaller steps. Reward yourself when you succeed no matter how small the achievement. Remind yourself that you are moving forward with determination and that you are one step closer to achieving your goal. Finally, I advise you not to be too competitive or compare yourself with others. Be yourself and accept that life is not a race against others but your self confidence depends on you and your personal needs. Set your own standards and allow yourself to overcome challenges at your own pace. I recommend you get this FREE CD - "A more confident you" - 60 minutes of my best tips and advice. What else can you do to improve your self confidence? "Use any tools available to you to improve your performance. Tools could be books, courses, attending seminars or researching the internet. Try using a journal to plot your successes as they occur. It is so important that you write these down and begin to focus on improvement and achievement no matter how small. You can learn to become confident I promise - so start today! What is your biggest obstacle to more self confidence? Your thinking. Negative thinking to be exact. If you always think negatively