or those that prefer to lead and influence through relationship power there are three specific traits worth developing, humility, authenticity and vulnerability (what I call the H.A.V.e strategy): Humility Humility is defined as the “quality or condition of being humble, modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance.” Many leaders believe projecting humility shows weakness or a lack of confidence and competence. This belief leads to the exact opposite, which becomes projecting arrogance. Humility, in the right dose and level, is an extremely powerful trait. Humility allows the leader to be open to feedback and to always look for ways to become an even better leader. Leading with humility also opens the door for the next trait, vulnerability. Vulnerability Vulnerability shows a leader is human and not perfect. Leaders that show their warts, share when and how they have failed, made mistakes, or made bad decisions, either in the past or in the moment, show their humility and humble personality. It takes tremendous personal strength, confidence and self-esteem for a leader to be humble enough to be open to showing some vulnerability. There is power in vulnerability because it leads to the trait that results directly in building the relationship power that creates deeply loyal followers, authenticity. Authenticity Part of the definition of authenticity is “genuine, real, reliable and trustworthy,” which is what leaders should be projecting. Position power leaders unwilling to be vulnerable project a false confidence that followers will see through, be uncomfortable with and will not trust. This makes loyalty impossible. They will create a compliance mindset in followers that get things done at only minimal levels. Leaders humble enough to be vulnerable will project an authenticity that is