quit do it now

At the outset: - Figure out which goal has to go. It might be obvious, but most of the time it won’t be, so you’ll need to really give some serious thought to your priorities. What matters most to you? And, just as important, what makes you feel effective and fulfilled? Anything that doesn’t, might need to get the boot. - Be confident. You’ll want to know that you are giving up your goal for the right reasons, so ask yourself these two questions: (a) What do I need to reach this goal, and can I get what I need? Look at the whole picture. If successfully reaching this goal means more time and effort than you can spare without sacrificing other important goals, you may need to walk away. (Maybe you can’t work 50 hours a week, spend time with your kids, and write that screenplay, and that’s OK.) (b) Will reaching this goal cost me too much? Will it make me unhappy? Sometimes the problem isn’t limited time and energy, it’s that you really don’t like what you’re doing as much as you thought you would. You find the process of reaching the goal boring, frustrating, or unrewarding. Circumstances change, and it’s OK for your goals to change too. Once you’ve made up your mind that quitting is right move: - Stop dwelling on the past. When regrets about sunk costs creep into your thinking, have a replacement thought ready, one that focuses on everything you gain from walking away and moving on. (Example: If I feel guilty about giving up on my unfinished novel, then I’ll remember how good it feels to have more time on the weekends with my kids.) Replace the goal with one that does work for you. To keep yourself moving forward and feeling satisfied with your choice, give some thought to what you will do instead. If you just don’t have the time to write a 600-page novel, is there some other way you could express your thoughts and creativity that you do have time for, like blogging? Learning to know when to fold ‘em is essential for your well-being, and ultimately for your personal and professional success, too. When you can give up on a goal that isn’t working, you’ll be freeing up the valuable resources you need to make the most of the goals you do pursue – the ones really worth pursuing